Laid off but not alone in Silicon Valley

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  • linda kahn

    Laid off ‘but not alone’ has a whole OTHER meaning. See this latest Dear Abby. This was published 2/26/09.

    Dear Abby: Unemployed woman is forgotten by friends, former co- workers
    By Abigail Van Buren

    Dear Abby: In this day of massive cutbacks and layoffs, please remind your readers that people who have recently lost their jobs need their friends now more than ever.

    Having found myself in this situation, I know firsthand that people I thought were my friends truly are not. The phone calls and e-mails stopped almost immediately when word got out I was laid off. Being treated as if I have some sort of contagious disease has been as bad as losing my job. I know what happened to me is a sign of the times and no reflection on me.

    So, to all of you who have chosen to no longer communicate with me because of my employment status: I am fine. I have a positive attitude. This will not keep me down. I realize my possibilities are endless. However badly you treat me now, when you are in the same situation, I will be there for you.

    — Unemployed

    Dear Unemployed: Thank you for so eloquently pointing out that people who have lost their jobs should not be abandoned and that the support of friends and family is crucial.

    Although family relationships are our primary source of emotional support, the relationships we form at work and our work-related contacts can become like an extended second family.

    If these relationships are treated as expendable, it can often be as traumatic as the death of a loved one. No one can ignore the fact that times have grown uncertain. Millions of good, hardworking individuals have lost their jobs through no fault of their own. More bad news may be on the way.
    Now is the time for all of us to reach out a hand to encourage and help one another. People who are unemployed should not be made to feel they have been discarded. There is strength in numbers. We will all be stronger if we stand together and observe the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

    I can only speak for myself, but as in the letter, I’ve experienced BOTH friends and family avoiding me. And, people that are almost strangers, being kind and sympathetic during my layoff.

    Anyone else here have anything to say about the ‘sigma’ of being unemployed?
    Are you finding friends no longer calling. Or family ‘ignoring’ you?

    Not to say this malicious behavior. But, I think in any kind of major issue, people are not sure ‘what to say’. I’m also assuming that men (like some family members), are possibly afraid you MIGHT cry or ‘get emotional’ and they don’t know what to do in that circumstance.

    Anyone else care to chime in?

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  • Sherry Weber

    I have enjoyed reading your post. I have been laid off as well, and i get the same treatment from people that i thought i could count on. Now i just do the best that i can to move forward with my life. I will be starting school soon and i am very excited about that. It will keep me busy and focused on my future, so hold your head high; i believe that all of us will get through these difficult times even if we don’t have the support that we need to prevail. Take care and God bless.

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